Robert Oscar Lopez has written a piece in which he argues that homosexual marriage is child abuse. He says:
Many gay parenting advocates say these are more noble scenarios since they “wanted” the child, but they are wrong. They imposed their
vision ruthlessly on a helpless being and then extorted gratitude. The
false equivalency used in order to make the child “love” a second parent
of the same sex is coerced and injurious.
In the household irreversibly alienated from constitutive rituals
like Father’s Day and Mother’s Day, it is abusive to tell the child it
was all for her own good and she shouldn’t listen to her own feelings,
nor her peers, neighbors, or any moral authorities on TV who praise
motherhood or fatherhood.
It is abusive to tell a child, “We are your moms” or “we are your
dads,” and then expect the child never to feel the loss of such
important icons, in addition to the injury of having been severed from
at least one, and possibly both, biological parents—not because it was
necessary, but because the two adults insisted on the arrangement. The
lessons children learn from this undermine selfhood: might makes right,
little people are subject to the whims of self-serving parents, and
powerful people can impose “love” on weaker beings with money or
political influence over adoption agencies, family courts, sperm banks,
and surrogate mothers.
None of these problems would arise if we lived in a world where gay
people saw children not as a commodity for purchase but rather as an
obligation requiring sacrifices (i.e., you give up your gay partner
instead of making your kid give up a parent of the opposite sex, because you’re the adult.)
When the child begins to ask, “why don’t I have a mom?” or “why don’t
I have a dad?” the abuse grows, for the gay “parents” will likely
respond with an answer that protects them from criticism but disallows the child’s recognition of hurt feelings.
Robert Oscar Lopez is remarkably articulate and well-reasoned. He certainly has me thinking differently not only about SSM, but also, divorce and single parent adoption. I'd be interested to find out where he stands on the morality of homosexuality. Does he accept it even if children are not involved? Thank you for sharing this.ReplyDelete