I have just finished writing
the portion of the forthcoming Lutheran
Service Book Handbook that will deal with all forms of Confession and
Absolution in Lutheran Service Book. The following is the last in a series of four church newsletter articles about private confession
that I have written for my congregation:
Private confession is a Means of Grace
that few use in the Evangelical Lutheran Church. There are historical factors
that have contributed to this, and we surveyed those in the first newsletter
article in this series. At the same
time, I think there are four factors that regularly dissuade people from making
use of private confession.
First, congregation members are often
concerned about how their pastor will view them if they confess to him the sins
present in their life. Will he be shocked? Will he think less of them because
they have committed these sins?
The answer to the first question is:
No. There are those who have been
serving in the Office of the Ministry for far longer than I, but after fourteen
years as a pastor I can say that apart from murder, I don’t think there is a
sin that I have not heard confessed.
Speaking in general terms, it doesn’t take long before pastors hear the
confession of sins like adultery, fornication, homosexual acts, use of
pornography (including child pornography), drug use, and alcohol abuse. Most likely there is no sin you are going to
confess that a pastor has not already heard.
Certainly he has heard serious offenses confessed, and the experience
quickly prepares a pastor not to be surprised by anything. If we really believe
our theology, then we know that the devil, the world and our own sinful nature
are powerful forces that tempt us and lead us into sin. The fact that sin occurs is not
surprising. We wish it were not so, but
we are not shocked to hear that sin – even very serious sin - has occurred.
The answer to the second question is
also, No. The thing that congregation
members often fail to realize is that there is probably no one who is more
aware of his own sin than the
pastor. The pastor spends his life
studying God’s Word, which is always revealing his own sin. He reflects on how to preach the law to his
congregation, and often judges the effectiveness of it by how it reveals the
sin in his own life. You will not find a
person who understands more than your pastor about how sin can entangle us,
because he is painfully aware of how this is true for him.
Second, congregation members are often
concerned about whether sins confessed to the pastor will becomes known to
others. At his ordination, and at every subsequent installation at a new
congregation, the pastor is asked, “will you forgive the sins of those who
repent, and will you promise never to divulge the sins confessed to you?” This is one of the most serious commitments
made by a pastor. It is something that
even our legal system acknowledges. I
experienced this first hand in a federal court room in Chicago when I was asked
about a matter revealed to me in private confession. When I refused to answer,
the judge acknowledged that this was proper and ordered that the questioning
move on to something else.
Third, congregation members can find
it uncomfortable to put their sin into words and say it out loud to another
person. But this discomfort is in fact
one of the blessings of private confession as it aids us in our struggle
against sin. Confessing our sins out
loud forces us to face our sin for what it is – sin against God. In the absolution we receive the Gospel
through which the Holy Spirit strengthens us to resist sin and temptation. And during our daily life as we face
temptation, the knowledge that an action is a sin – something to be confessed –
helps us to resist and avoid it.
Finally, congregation members often
see no real need for private confession because they already confess their sins
and receive absolution in the general confession and absolution that occurs at
the beginning of the Divine Service. We
never want to play off these two forms of confession and absolution against
each other. Both are true confession of
sin and both are true absolutions that deliver forgiveness. Yet the same thing can be said about the
forgiveness received in all of the Means of Grace. Just because we receive forgiveness in the
proclamation of the Word does not mean that therefore we don’t use Holy Baptism
or the Sacrament of the Altar. Instead
we recognize that each of these gives us forgiveness in a unique way.
The same is true of private
confession. It is unique in that it
provides the opportunity to confess particular sins that we know have been
present in our life. And then the Christian gets to hear Jesus Christ speak
forgiveness directly to that person as an
individual. Christ speaks that forgiveness “to me” and only to me. That is a gift you receive nowhere else. As Martin Luther wrote: “No one needs to
drive you to confession by commanding it. Rather we say this: Whoever is a
Christian or would like to be one, has here the reliable advice to go and
obtain this precious treasure” (“A Brief Exhortation to Confession,” 20).
Previously: